Islamic Morals and Manners Give you Success in the Tarikat

To be a murid, you need to have Adab, you need to have manners. Everything starts opening to a man who has manners. The more opens to him the more obedient he becomes to his Sheykh then. He can see the Paradises, he can enter and come back, but he will never leave his Sheykh then because what he is looking for is not even in Paradise. It is in his Sheykh’s hand and nobody else carries that.

Today Sufism, tariqat becomes people’s running to have some entertainment. Some are running to have some comfort. Some are already fed up with the outside world and they are getting old. They are tired of sitting home and so they are running to tariqat. This is the mentality of today’s tariqat. But did tariqats change and did Sheykhs lose that power?

No. They still have it. They are circling around this world and they are checking people. You may be sitting next to him for twenty years and you may get nothing. He is circling in the world, he is looking and he says, “This one has good behavior.” He gives it to that one and walks away. He never finishes. The more he gives the more comes. But can you give diamond to the hand of an ignorant person? Can you take a diamond and throw it in front of a pig? What is he going to do with it?

So first you have to know what the treasure is. You have to know what you are looking for. And to get that you have to know what you have to sacrifice. You have to sacrifice something. Everyone has to sacrifice something. If you are not sacrificing it means that you are not really ready and prepared to get what is there. You just want it for your own ego.

So yes, in tariqat sometimes Sheykhs show the people the most luxurious life and sometimes they show them the worst lifestyle that people are going through. You have to go through it to understand. You may be with the Sheykh one week and you will be living like a king and the next week you will be living like a beggar in the street. Sheykh
has the right to tell you, “Let’s go, we are going outside now to start begging from people.”

Huh, what will you do then? If you have no submission, what are you going to do? You are going to say, “He is a thief. Is he trying to teach me how to steal or to ask from people?”

So submission comes with everything you have. You no longer have your own ideas of thinking and understanding. If you cannot think the way that the Sheykh is directing you then it is forbidden for you to think and to try to analyze things by your own self because you are going to come to the wrong understanding. Sheytan is going to be there. So your Sheykh is not there. Sheytan is going to be your Sheykh. And you are still going to say, “He is my Sheykh.” But no. Sheytan is your Sheykh. Sheytan is giving you directions then.

– SahibulSaif Sheykh Abd Kerim Effendi Hz

Good morals and manners alone does not make anyone Sufi or inheritor of the spiritual lineage of the Sufi Path. One must have a true Sufi Shaykh and should be sincere to his/her Shaykh.

May Allah help us in this strive ..ameen